It's worth noting that the levels are not directly connected to different types of submissive, but there are links. Those who want total dehumanisation (gimps etc) are likely to be victims... but they could actually exist on a far higher level and just be aware of their place in the scheme of life.
Please note: photos in this blog are not owned by me and are meant only to make the blog look good; they should not be taken as any sort of judgement on the people in the pictures.
Level 1: The victim submissive
Whilst many types of sub, even at the higher level, enjoy some element of pain, being bullied, humilated or whatever, to the victim submissive, this is their life. They're submissive only because they can't be bothered to do any thinking in order to find any sort of connection or meaning in life.
The victim is the type of guy who sits at home, now and then turning on the apps to see who has contacted them. But of course, they're unlikely to have even put pictures on the app, let alone any text, so no one does. They blame the world for their problems and won't do anything about it.
Level 2: The angry submissive
Angry submissives are a bit like those dogs you hear about who have been mistreated. They growl and snarl at the world. Like victims, they blame the world for their problems, but they're more likely to lash out. They know that having connection in their life would help them feel better about themselves and the life they live, but they find themselves feeling annoyed that they have to do all the work.Angry submissives often have long lists of what they expect from a Dominant on their profiles, without actually giving much about why a Dominant would want to connect with them.
Being self-centred, angry submissives are likely to view any contact that takes more than a couple of days to turn from "Hi" to a meet as a waste of time. They therefore don't meet many people.
Angry submissives also believe that everyone can read their minds. They expect those they meet to be able to push the exact buttons they want to have pushed without expressing these beforehand. A single wrong step (such as using the wrong name for the submissive or by attempting a physical or sexual act that isn't what the submissive was looking for) will mean that the submissive lashes out and gives up on the connection.
Some on this level aren't as much angry as self-obsessed. They're the ones who 'Dominants' post pictures of them 'using their slaves' - and the slave is so busy preening at the camera that the Dominant doesn't really get any service at all.
Don't confuse angry submissives with power bottoms or brats. These are roles that people play and can mean that a person is much higher up on the consciousness ladder. However, it is possibly true that people become brats as a way of expressing what they want as they haven't learnt the art of communicating with a Dominant which could put them in this category.
Level 3: The cooperative submissive
Cooperative submissives have started to think outside of themselves and realise that to move forward in life requires them to take responsibility for their own growth. These subs often have profiles on the various dating sites and apps that explain carefully what they are, and are not, into and will generally have pictures of some form.
Cooperative submissives are willing to compromise in order to get some form of connection, sometimes allowing themselves to be drawn into scenes and situations that go against their wishes, goals or values as long as their ultimate aim of meeting a particular person is fulfilled.These submissives will work hard to make connections, often chasing a Dominant for an extendied period of time in order to get noticed. They also forgive when someone changes plans at the last moment.
Although this may feel like the submissive is working for mutual submissives will tend to be quite selfish. They are the same submissives who will finally make contact with a Dominant and then ask for the Dominant to "arrange for your friends to use me, too"... making the whole scene ultimately about them.
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Whist their profiles are about what they want, they generally don't consider why a Dominant would want them.
Cooperative submissives thrive on strict rules. They find complexity and ambiguity confusing. They look to the Dominant for constant guidance and expect punishment when they move out of line. Of course, the form of the punishment must fit the submissive's view of the world and cannot be different from what is expected or the submissive may feel slighted.
Level 4: The servant
The servant finds peace in serving others. They look to help others and solve people's problems. They want to help and are motivated by putting others first.The servant submissive finds meaning in servitude and feel lost when they are not serving. Service can take a number of different forms, from sexual (eg making sure the Dominant feels amazing when being sucked or when fucking) through domestic (cooking and cleaning) to cash slavery (giving money to make the Dominant's life better). Each submissive will find his own niche and will find Dominants who respond well to it.
This place feels very comfortable for the servant submissive, and they feel justified in this position. It feels right to be giving constantly to a Man they adore.The problem here comes from the fact that the servant submissive is nothing without the Dominant. Think Dobby in Harry Potter once he's got his socks, or the servants in Beauty and the Beast... the servant sub is defined by serving.
Sometimes this means they can try too hard - deskilling the Dominant or making Him lazy. It can also lead to some silly situations. In the past, when I've been walking with a servant submissive, passing through a door can lead to a dance as the submissive tries too hard to get the door for me. It all ends up feeling forced when it would be just as easy for me to have opened the door. There's politeness and knowing your place, and there's making such a big point of it that you can't actually move forwards. Servant subs can also try too hard to anticipate a Dominant's needs, and feel slighted or pushed aside when the Dominant doesn't need them to do a particular task. Sometimes, it's just easier for a Dominant to cum using His own hand or to book their own travel. Or the servant submissive can be so keen to serve that he misses the fact that the Dominant actually enjoys activities such as cooking which the servant seems desperate to take over.
Worse still, when a servant submissive doesn't have a Dominant, they have nothing to give them purpose in life and feel lost and empty.
Like cooperative submissives, servant submissives love rules. The big difference here is that they feel personally responsible for any failings, even if they are not directly to blame. They can spend a lot of time beating themselves up about problems, which generally leads to a spiral of self-recrimination, which often then leads to worse service for the Dominant, so is ultimately counterproductive.
Level 5: The understanding submissive
Many peaceful submissives will find the same enjoyment in servitude as the servant submissive, but have understood that there is a complexity in any situation and act accordingly. They understand that every Dominant is different and that any sub-Dom relationship must be built on communication, compromise and mutual acceptance.The understanding submissive recognises his own needs on a deeper level than the servant submissive. They understand what drives them - their core values.
Understanding submissives are accepting of differences. Although, like most people, they can find themselves being judgemental, they know that being so is wrong and they try to see beyond their own prejudices and find common ground, or at least agree to differ. They have a deep understanding of what makes their Dominant tick and will work to fulfill that need, if they can.
Underpinning this is an understanding of core values - those values that lie above our actions and make us choose between the grey areas of life. Take an example: a submissive is new to a sub/Dom relationship and has been left in the care of a second Dominant. The sub has not had a conversation about rules with his Master. The second Dominant asks him to serve sexually. Does he feel that loyalty to his Master, or respect to the second Dominant is more important, in the absence of rules?
Loyalty and respect are core values, along with honesty, compassion, efficiency, creativity and security. A submissive at this level will recognise his own, and have a good sense of what drives his Dominant too (as long as the Dominant is of a high enough level to understand theirs). They will then be able to act accordingly. For example, if the sub in the example above realised that the Dominant was driven more by respect to other Dominants than by loyalty to themselves, they would serve the second Dominant. But they would also be understanding of the punishment that could result should they have got the decision wrong.
Level 6: The connected submissive
Connected submissives have inner strength and wisdom. They are totally grounded and accepting of who they are and their place on this Earth and within relationships. They are fully aware of the differences between their own values and beliefs and others, and can reconcile these differences.These submissives are not easily malliable as they are so clear on who they are. Weak Dominants find them problematic as they do not fit into the stereotype of a submissive. At times, they can be directive, when they feel that being so will benefit their Dominant's life. At their heart, they feel happiness in benefitting a Dominant and have the foresight to understand that a Dominant's immediate demands may not be the best result in the long run. They will find respectful ways to guide the Dominant to a better course of action.
In a previous blog, I wrote about Dobby (a Level 4) and Jeeves (as in Jeeves and Wooster). Jeeves is a Level 6 at least, if not a 7. He is completely at home with being the servant, and strives for his Master to get the best from the relationship. He guides his Master to the best outcomes. But he's still the one who brings the tea and does the ironing.Likewise, a connected submissive is connected to the tasks they enjoy performing or the activities they enjoy doing with their Dominant. They help to bring the relationship to higher levels by encouraging and feel true joy in serving.
Level 7: The ultimate submissive
To those who haven't thought about this, the ultimate submissive is the gimp. A human being who has given his total existence to a Dominant man. They are kept in a closet and only let out when being used. But such a submissive is barely scraping a Level 1. They have a desire to turn off their consciousness, not to expand it. They are lazy and unreactive.
The ultimate submissive is one who knows his place on Earth and who isn't afraid to play that role fully, totally committing to it. They are passionate about what they do and will work to serve the Dominant in any way possible.If a Dominant was an orchestral conductor, the ultimate submissive would be the soloist for a concerto. They are undert the control of the conductor, but they shine in their own right. They have worked to find their true place and integrate seamlessly with the rest of the orchestra when it is right to do so, but rise above when required.
The ultimate submissive's intention is wider than just their Dominant. They feel connection throughout the world and understand the power they have in their actions and the work they do. They will go to great lengths to improve themselves and the lives of those around them. They thrive under ownership but do not feel the need to be owned to be whole. They are very, very rare.
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