Isolation sex

I'm a wanker. So should you be.

While so many of us are isolated, I've no doubt that many people will be practicing self loving. Sometimes several times per day. There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, go for it. Nature gave you the gift of a set of pleasure spots and you don't need anyone or anything else to enjoy them.

Our culture has made masturbation seem like a bad thing. So we knock one out and sometimes feel bad about it. So now is the right time to celebrate jerking and use it to learn more about ourselves.

When I've worked from home in the past, I've been used a quick wank in the same way people use walks, cigarette breaks and cups of coffee; as a way of breaking up the monotony of the day. I finish a piece of work, then pull out my dick, shoot a load and then get back on with work. As I generally take a while to cum, this wastes time, but it also means that the amount of pleasure I get from masturbation tends to decrease.

On the other hand, at times, if I'm in a situation that cranking one out isn't possible (for example when I'm staying with family), then I notice that I don't feel the need to jerk off quite as often. When I eventually do, I find that I experience much more pleasure.

So, tip one, mix it up. By all means enjoy trying to break your record for the number of orgasms per day, but also try to break the absenence record. You'll enjoy both, in different ways.

Pornography is so easily accessible that it's easy to forget that it's possible to beat off without watching any. Our wildest fantasies are there on the screen. I've enjoyed many long edging sessions where I started on one particular fantasy and ended somewhere completely different. I'll be watching muscle guys fucking in the desert, then get excited by the boots, move to kink, then to straight stuff, gangbang porn... and so on and end up cumming to a skinny twink boy being force fed dick by daddies. Or whatever. It's fun to just follow our mood. Add poppers and it's even more fun - hours of edging, riding the peak and repeating. Bliss.

However, like all good things, we get desensitised to porn. You'll notice this happening as you start to search for harder and harder scenes. What started as being excited by a hot guy with a nice cock turns into needing multiple load bareback gangbang sex to even raise a twich in your nether regions.

Tip two therefore is to give yourself breaks from porn. Take a few days off per week when you don't watch anything and instead let your imagination run riot. You may even learn a few things about what you're into.

How can you take a quick solo hand job to another level? If you keep treating a session as just another thing you do each day (or several times a day), it soon loses its allure.

Try using toys to spice up your quicky. Even if you haven't got anything from a sex shop hiding under the bed, anyhing from clothes pegs/pins to watermelons can be used to have a good time. Just don't put anything that doesn't have a firm handhold inside you and please use lube with insertables. Our hospitals have enough to deal with without you adding to the emergency surgery lists with a baseball bat stuck up your nether regions or your dick in a vacuum cleaner. And NEVER try anything involving bags over your head or strangulation on your own. No breath control is totally safe at the best of times - on your own it's just stupid.

Try dressing up in different outfits to make yourself feel sexy. Just because no one will see you doesn't mean you can't feel good. Business clothes, sports clothes, underwear, dressing gowns, jeans, fetish gear... the list is endless. Play in a different place from your normal routine. If you normally beat off in bed or shower, try doing it in the kitchen or on the living room floor.

Try spreading the session out to take a whole evening to yourself. Phone off. Nice bath. Champagne. Strawberries. Romantic meal and enjoying your body, with or without toys, poppers and porn for a few hours. Work slowly - start with the secondary sexual areas. Your lips. Your nipples. Your feet. Don't aim to orgasm for a while. Take your time and really enjoy who you are and what your body can do for you.

Alternatively, find someone online to enjoy your body with. Camming with someone is safe and fun - as long as you know you're not being recorded. Pulling your meat out on chaturbate or cam4 is fine if you're out to friends and family as a sexual being, but has potential consequences if you're a teacher or aspiring politician. Paying someone is an option if you want your exact buttons pushed (for example, I know people who want specific words used when they're being dominanted or given instructions), but the cost can build up.

For those people who are a little scared of meeting people at the best of times, this is a great time to get to know people without committing. Use the hook up apps to find someone nearby, and enjoy each others' company via video. Learn about each other, then have some hot isolation video chats. You'll be ready to go further when we all get released.

Enjoy your body. Enjoy some solo loving. Stay safe, keep calm and wank on.

Just wash your hands afterwards.